Relationships are complicated, but at the same time each of us is willing to put up with that complication to invest in another person and feel acceptance and desired by someone. When you really stop and think about it, what is a relationship? In my opinion, which is always changing, it is when two individuals who live independent and separate lives begin to share those lives together. It is simply walking through life together. How great is it to be blessed by having another human being to walk through this hard life with us. Do we need another person to walk through life with us? No, but sometimes we are blessed by having that person to walk through life with us.
We need to begin to see relationships this way, as a blessing. Our society, especially in the south, puts so much pressure on relationships and makes them a necessity. That is simply wrong. I believe if we could begin to understand this, to comprehend that relationships are blessings, we would enjoy them so much more. Not only would the actual relationship be that much more enjoyable, but when they ended or when we are not involved in a romantic relationship we would still be content.
If you can’t tell, I write from quite a good bit of experience. A week ago today, I ended a “romantic relationship” that I had been in for about 8 months. To be honest, it is hard. My emotions are like a rollercoaster some days, but because I saw the relationship as a gift, a blessing, I am not depressed. I don’t feel a void in my life now that he is gone. All of this is because I am seeing that, I don’t need him. Although I don’t fully understand that, I am not sure if anyone does, I know that it is true and I choose to remind myself of this truth daily. He was a blessing and I enjoyed every minute of it, but I don’t need him.
What if we all looked at relationships this way? How different would our lives look? How much more healthy would our relationships be, if we weren’t expecting so much from them?