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Tips: New School Year and New Relationships

Monday, August 16th, 2010

 

Starting college for the first time is exciting and scary! Besides trying hard in your classes and extracurricular activities, such as marching band or SGA, you also want to focus on establishing good relationships. This can be a relationship with friends or relationships with a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. But let’s focus on the romantic kind of relationship. Here are some tips for good relationships in college!

  • Be friendly-That is the first step to establishing any sort of a relationship! When you’re in college, you will be overwhelmed by the amount of new people there are on campus. Be willing to be friendly to everyone to see who you are compatible with. You never know if you will miss out on a great individual just because you were not willing to talk to them or be friendly.
  • Be more open to different things. Be more willing to try new things. Be more willing to be friends with people that are different from you. Instead of surrounding yourself by the same group of friends from high school, be more adventurous with your friendships and relationships. This doesn’t mean that you should start hanging out with a bad crowd. It just means to start trying new things in your friendships and relationships.
  • Be approachable. Don’t send out the “don’t talk to me” vibe. That is off-putting to any potential suitors or friends. Being approachable includes the first 2 tips: be friendly and open to different things. Don’t’ be snobby to people that try to talk to you or ignore their attempts to be your friend.
  • Have fun! No one likes a boring friend. Be willing to hang out with friends, whether it’s pulling an all-nighter with friends or partying until the wee hours of the night. College is about having fun (and making good grades)! Make the most of it (the safe way). Don’t be so serious when it comes to relationships–being so focused on finding a husband or wife in college. Be willing to date different sorts of people to see who you really are compatible with.

Remember that college is about turning over a new leaf. Most likely, people don’t know about your reputation in college or your embarrassing stories. So, since you’re starting off with a clean slate, make the most of it!
–
Sarah Tam

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All Girls Deserve A Great Guy

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

Okay so im gonna be real … I dont believe the old story that girls only love the bad guys, and nice guys finish last. C’mon honestly whats wrong with a guy that treats you well right!?! Dating is a minefield, THATS for sure!  So I came with up some tips on how to spot a keeper, and some warning signs to know when you ought to slip out the door and run for your dear lives ladies.
 
#1
He shows respect  for all women. Any guys who refers to women in derogatory terms is a definite no- no, as sooner or later he’ll turn that attutide on to you. However, if he is considerate to women in general, then he’s likely  to treat you well.
 
#2
He listens to your point of view and doesn’t talk over you. If he doesn’t agree with what you say, he won’t tell you you’re wrong, but will simply suggest reasons why he doesn’t agree. No good guy will ever put you down and continually tell you you’re wrong, especially in front of other people.
 
#3
He loves his mother but doesn’t let her smother or dictate to him. Any guy who is still tied to momma’s apron strings is not a good guy to date, even if he cares about her. Momma will make sure that you always come second best, as she wants to be the most important woman in his life.
 
#4
He likes you as you are and doesn’t try to change you.  If a guy tries to change you, then he is not into you as an individual, he just wants to mould you into his dream girl. A good guy is with you because it’s YOU he wants, not some idealised fantasy woman.
 
#5
You are not less important than his job or friends and he has time to spend with you. If he’d rather go out with his boys 5 times a week, and only squeezes you in once a week (if you’re lucky). Not a good sign ladies.
 
#6
If you have a crisis or major problem, he will come running to help you out or support you. Whether it’s a family problem or a domestic issue, whatever it is he can always be relied on to help out. Not because he’s ‘the man’, but because he genuinely wants to make things easier for you.
 
Well there you go! Six tips to know if the guy is truly a genuie sweet guy!!
 
- Seyi Aladebumoye

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Left Behind

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

 

Whats happens if your boyfriend or girlfriend is about to graduate the high school that you both go to, leaving you behind? They are about to go to college and be much farther away from you than they are now. This could either break apart the relationship, or it can make it even stronger than it already is. It just depends on the type of relationship you have now. Some couples just break up because they want to be single during their college years, and don’t want to deal with the stress of trying to keep up with their significant other that’s miles away from them. That’s your decision to make, but I don’t believe that is the answer at all. If you truly have a relationship that means something to you, then you should at least try to figure something out on how the “long distance” aspect is going to work. If you talk about what is going to happen and tell them how everything is going to work before you leave to go to college with the intention of making it work, then there will be way less problems. However, if you just try to “wing it” and see what happens, it’s most likely going to fall apart within the first week they start college. Like I said from the beginning, it can be a good thing or a bad thing. All you have to do is make the right choice by talking it out and everything else will fall into place. Everyone knows what can happen as a result of the choices you make at any time in a relationship. Making difficult choices is hard, so just make the right one and your relationship will be a lot stronger in the end. You can aslo  have much more fun with your boyfriend or girlfriend. This way, nothing can ever go wrong, or at least they go wrong a lot less often! Try this for yourself and see if it works!

-Baxter

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Long Distance

Saturday, May 8th, 2010

For a lot of you seniors out there, graduation is coming up. That means a time for new things and leaving home is coming up. For some of you, that means you and your significant other may be going to different colleges. Oh no! So that also means, it’s time for some serious talking and decision making.

If you and your significant other have been avoiding “the talk” for some time, now is the time to start talking about it. Graduation is a lot closer than you think it is. This is a big decision that you and your partner have to make together. It’s good to have an idea of how you feel about the possibility of a long distance relationship, but it isn’t a choice you should make on your own. You and your partner need to come to an agreement, and before you can do that, you need to talk about it. Now is the time!

Once you do start talking about it, have an open mind. Maybe your partner has a different idea than you do about it so be open to what they are saying. Don’t go into the conversation thinking that your way of thinking is the only way of thinking-it isn’t. The conversation will go much better if both you and your partner listen to each other and consider what you both are saying. Don’t just say what you want and then ignore what they want. Communicate. This is an important decision to make in your relationship.

After you have had your first talk about it, don’t necessarily make the decision right then. Take some time for both of you to think about it. Don’t make a hasty decision based on one conversation you had for thirty minutes. Continue to think and talk about it for as long as you need to, discussing all your options. Try not going into the conversation thinking that you will come out with the solution. It will take a little bit of time and your first decision might not be your last. Be open to changing your mind as you grow throughout the summer.

If you and your significant other do decide to continue your realtionship, keep in mind that everything is going to change. The dynamic of a long distance relationship is completely different than that of a “normal” one. Not only does the physical aspect of your relationship get taken away, unless you are fairly close to each other, but you will both become much busier with college classes and life in general. A long distance relationship is a lot of work, so make sure that if that is what you want, you and your partner are willing to work hard at it. It takes a very strong relationship with good foundation to be able to handle it. Distance does not always make the heart grow fonder.

-Katy

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Romantic Date Ideas

Thursday, May 6th, 2010

Need some ideas for a romantic date? Anything you do with your significant other should be fun and enjoyable, but a surprise date is a great way to show your significant other that you care deeply for them. Instead of telling them where you’re going, blindfold them and tell them that it’s a surprise! This way, it will be more fun because it’ll give both of you an adrenaline rush! Here are some ideas to start with:
Go cloud-watching! Lie on the grass and tell each other what shapes you see in the sky.
Go out to a fancy restaurant, and talk over delicious food. Go out for ice cream afterwards!
Go to a community playground (Hickory Dickory is a prime choice)! Play hide-and-seek or tag; it might surprise you how much of a kid-at-heart you are.
Rent movies that you both enjoy and have a fun movie night at home! Pop some popcorn and snuggle up.
Go for a picnic in the park. Prepare lunch in a basket and bring a blanket!

There are many more great ideas that would make for an amazing date. Plan something that the both of you will never forget. As long as you take the time to come up with a creative date idea, your significant other is sure to have fun and appreciate what you’ve done for them. Whatever you do, just always remember to show your significant other how much they mean to you while you have the chance.

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Cutest Couple Picture Contest

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

Go check out our Facebook page (Be Real Teens) to enter our “Cutest Couple Picture Contest!” The winning couple gets a special suprise in May. Good luck!

Here is the link to the event!

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