Archive for November, 2009

“All My Single Ladies!”(and Fellas)

Saturday, November 21st, 2009

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Is it just me or are there couples popping up EVERYWHERE! It seems like I can’t even walk down the hallway without bumping into someone showing a little too much PDA. Maybe to the couples this isn’t a big deal but to the single people it’s a bit much, not the PDA- although that can be a bit much too- but the fact that everywhere you go, there’s a constant reminder that, “Oh yeah, I’m single.” Seeing all these couples, you can’t help but stop and think “Man, what’s wrong with me? How can they have a boyfriend or girlfriend but I can’t”? The answer…NOTHING! Just because you’re single doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. I get so tired of hearing people say “Oh man I need a girlfriend/boyfriend as if somehow this will make things magically better. Just because you’re single it doesn’t obligate you to have any less fun than couples. You can have an amazing time with your friends and the best part is that there’s no “significant other” holding you back. So ladies, just because Mr. Rock-Hard-Abs-Perfect-Smile-Football-Star-Everything-You’ve-Ever-Wanted isn’t looking your way doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful. Be happy with yourself and everything else will fall into place. And guys, just because Ms. Perfect-Body-Cheer-Leading-Captain-Everything You’ve-Ever-Dreamed-About isn’t eye-ing you doesn’t mean you aren’t worth eye-ing. Be confident in yourself and, in time, the right person will come along. So to all me single people, be patient and enjoy the time you have for yourself. Keep your head high and never let anyone feel like you’re worth less that what you are.

-Asia

Breaking Up: The Right Way

Friday, November 20th, 2009

So this is a topic that most people dread. No one wants to be the bad guy, and because of that, they usually go about breaking up in all the wrong ways. People break up over text or facebook, and I just don’t feel that this right. Of course your once-significant other is going to be hurt, but there is a way to make the situation better. In all relationships there should be some degree of respect for the other person. One of the best ways to show respect is to tell them in person and be honest about why you are breaking up with them. This way, even if you don’t remain friends, your once boyfriend/girlfriend can have the proper closure they need. I feel this is a really important aspect in healthy relationships, so that everyone has the chance to move on properly.

- Amany92726260_edd215bfaf_o

Cooler weather fun

Friday, November 6th, 2009

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As the weather gets cooler, most people start thinking there is nothing they can do to have fun. I disagree, the fall/winter air is perfect for getting some friends together for some outdoor fun. Some great idea’s would be building a fire and roasting marshmellows, gathering some friends together and playing a movie outside under the stars. There are so many things to do as the weather gets cooler. Just remember have fun and the cooler air could bring some great memories.

He are a few other ideas that always make a good time:

Build a fire and invite some friends
Flash light tag
Just sit outside and enjoy the weather
Christmas light shows such as Callaway Gardens or just around neighboorhoods
Tag football game or any sports
Make cocoa and some homemade cookies
Any thing you enjoy can always be adapted for the cooler weather, just remember to wear the right clothes to keep you warm. Have a blast!

Saige

Dates: Who should pay?

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

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The check comes. Is there an awkward pause and silence about who picks up the tab? Or does it flow naturally? Couples might have trouble deciding whether or not to pay when they are on a date. Some people think that guys should pay because it is the gentlemanly thing to do, and some people think that you should split the cost or buy your own meal. But paying on dates should not be a big deal. I think that payment on dates should be decided between the couple, not a universal rule.

The first thing to do is talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend about how it is going to work out. Is the boy going to pay every time, sometime, or never? Communication is key. If you didn’t talk to he/she about it, there will be plenty of awkward silences in the future at the end of dinner. Not cool. So talk to him/her. Establish the rules about how dates are going to work.

For girls:
If a guy decides that he wants to pay for every single date, then that is perfectly fine! You are only lucky girl! Just make sure you are with him because you like HIM, not his benjamins!

But sometimes a guy might get tired of paying all the time. After all, it does get a little expensive after a while. So offer to chip in every once in a while. Either split the check or just pay for your meal yourself. That way your boyfriend will know that you care and that you aren’t trying to take advantage of him.

For guys:
Maybe you don’t believe that the guy should have to pay for a girl’s meal. Then establish the ground rules with the girl first, so she won’t be caught off guard or be unprepared. It is perfectly fine to pay for your own share only. There is not law commanding you to pay for your date, it’s more of a tradition than law.

But I feel that every once in a while you should treat your girlfriend to something special. That way, she will know your care for her and enjoy her company. Talk it out with your significant other and establish ground rules so that you understand what will happen next time the check rolls around. Just remember to talk about it before any more awkward silences come up!

-Sarah