Archive for January, 2010

Down Time

Friday, January 29th, 2010

Downtime

Down time spent away from a boyfriend or girlfriend is probably one of the toughest aspects of a relationship. Any time you’re away from them, all you do is think about them and while you’re suposed to be having fun on your trip, in actuality you’re not having as much fun as you would like to. Talking with them while you’re gone is a key problem solver in dealing with down time away from your boyfriend or girlfriend. You’re not always gonna be able to spend evey minute with your signficant other. Communicating while you’re away is a good way to keep in touch and to let them know you care about them so you can concentrate on what it is you need to be doing, whether it’s for work or play. Just have fun while you need to, and when you have free time on your trip, talk to them so you don’t have to spend all your time worrying about them. Chances are, they’re thinking about you too, and calling them while you’re away is a good way to let them know that you’re thinking about them. If you can’t talk, go ahead and let them know ahead of time to make sure they know they won’t hear from you. That way, they don’t get upset if they try to call you and you aren’t able to talk. I can say from experience that it works! Shock right? It’s not that hard to do. Just try it and see how it works for you!

-Baxter Burke

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Relasolutions

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

Relationship Resolutions for the New Year

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The New Year presents a wonderful opportunity to set yearly goals and resolutions for many parts of your life. With that being said, New Years is also a great time to start your relationship off on the right note.

BE POSITIVE- Always try to be optimistic and positive. Try to give compliments when ever possible and avoid negative putdowns. Some times a negative comment is necessary but be sure to make it constructive and back it up with positive support.

GET RID OF A BAD HABITS- If you know of a habit that annoys your significant other then, by all means, Stop It! Set a goal to get of this pet peeve and your relationship will be more solid and enjoyable.

LISTEN- Listening is the best relationship advice that can be given in almost any circumstance. It is a simple thing that can make a huge difference in your relationship. If you devote all you attention to you partner, it shows that you care about them above anyone else. Don’t just “hear” some one, actually listen to what they are saying so that you can fully absorb what they are saying.

STOP TEXTING- If you are on a date or maybe just hanging out, DO NOT text other people. Some people may not be offended by texting but I assure you, no one enjoys it when their significant other is staring down at their cell phone. Instead, Show some respect and focus all of you attention on them. Texting divides your attention between several people and this does nothing but hurt a relationship.

TRY SOMETHING NEW- Trying new things can be hard, especially for those who have found their comfort zone in a relationship, but stepping out of this level of comfort may introduce you to a fun and exciting new activity that you can enjoy together for the rest of your life.

-Nick Iannuzzi

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Work It Out

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

Work it out

Have you ever gotten in a fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend and, at that point in time, you felt like completely giving up? Plenty of us have gone through this, but no matter the reason why you were mad at your boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place, you should try to work things out through communicating. Do not just give up on a relationship because it’s not working temporarily. If you do, you will probably regret doing so sometime in the future. There are things that can be done to fix the problem.
The first step is to think things through. Ask yourself: What is the problem? What can be done to solve it? How does my boyfriend/girlfriend see the issue? Step into the other person’s shoes and try to perceive things as they would.
After carefully thinking things through, the next step is to communicate with your significant other. What things can you say to calm each other down? What fundamental issue caused the fight? What needs to be said, and how should you say these things without hurting your boyfriend/girlfriend? Remember not to be harsh. Especially right after a fight, emotions can be pretty tense on both sides. This means that you should try not to be defensive or to blame your significant other because this will just delay the problem from being resolved. But be sure to get to the root of the problem in order to prevent any future arguments. Try to talk about what can be done to improve your relationship and your understanding of each other. It might take a little courage, but don’t hesitate to apologize, especially if you know where he/she is coming from. It’s not always easy to see things in somebody else’s light, but if you are able to, in the end, your relationship will be stronger.
Remember: you fight with the people you care most about because those are the relationships worth fighting for. One fight does not mean the end of a relationship. If anything, the fights that you are able to overcome are what strengthen your relationship because they teach you what core values you search for in your significant other, and which values your current boyfriend/girlfriend has or lacks. The best couples are the ones that can work through problems together, mutually trying to solve them, instead of criticizing each other constantly. You should always keep in mind is that you shouldn’t be quick give up on someone that you care for, cares for you, and appreciates you for who you are.

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