It’s safe to say that everyone has a companion of the opposite sex that they remain close too, without being romantically involved. It is also safe to say that there is a reason that you are attracted to that particular individual, rather if it’s by looks or personality. There is a reason to why we stick close to the people we form these relationships with. That reason is strictly because we have found our comfort zone. But what if someone did the unthinkable and crossed the line that lies between being friends and becoming lovers? People tend to stray from this particular relationship in fear of losing a great friendship. Although it is true that just because two people can be great friends, does not mean that they will be great lovers. It is also true that the relationship built by your friendship has given you an amazing foundation for the two of you to build on. At the end of the day, all anyone wants is to be close to someone, friend or lover. In life we pick and choose who we want to remain close with, and once we’ve chosen those people we tend to stick by them. The reality of it is that no matter how much an individual is capable of hurting someone, the one that is still with you at the end of the day is the one worth keeping. A friend, a good friend, a close friend, will always be there for you at the end of the day. So this thing we do where we stay away from someone in fear of ruining a relationship is irrational. Sometimes the invasion of personal space from the person who knows you the best is exactly what you need, and sometimes it isn’t. Don’t let the fear of losing something so precious; keep you from gaining something that has the potential to be extraordinary. We shouldn’t give up on something before we try. But before doing so it is imperative that the two individuals communicate their feelings for one another before taking a leap that involves a change in status. This will allow security within the relationship and comfort in case the commitment doesn’t work. This will not work for every close opposite sex couple. But sometimes doing the unthinkable and going against all odds will enhance your life in ways you did not even imagine.
-Aiesha Gentry
